Why Getting Clear and Grounded in Your Purpose Is Often The Key to Evolving Beyond Your Struggles With Your Body and Weight
I had this lovely client a couple of years back that came to me hoping to lose weight and eat healthier. It turned out that, for the most part, she knew what to eat how to lose weight and she had expended vast amounts of personal energy and financial resources in pursuit of this goal. She thought her excess weight held her back from everything in her life, especially the one thing she wanted more than anything in the world- to be a singer and songwriter. After weeks of watching her self sabotage, I realized that this false intention of losing weight was just a distraction from feeling that desire, that longing to be living in her purpose and channeling her God-given gifts as a singer and songwriter. She fooled herself into thinking that she had to lose weight first, and in many ways this idea was keeping her safe from courageously pursuing what she really wanted. It wasn’t until she owned this and accepted the fact that her weight didn’t need to hold her back that she started to feel lighter and more juiced up to finally take care of herself in the way she’d been striving to for years. Because she was finally feeling the desire for what she really wanted, self-care became an important step in being able to channel her gifts and show up in her full light and power.
When we experience suffering in our lives, we often look to the most tangible aspects of our lives for the cause. We get fixated on wants and desires that are connected to temporal aspects of our lives like our bodies and looks. In the process, we lose connection with our personal power because deep inside we know that these are fairly insignificant goals in the grand scheme of things. Health, wellness, and fitness become a be-all end all rather than an important aspect of self care so that we may be fully of service.
In the big picture, we need balanced health and an optimized physical experience in order to show up resourced and powerful for the rest of our life. We eat well and take care of our bodies to create the space for more love, more joy, and more peace. If we are healthy but not pursuing our lives with love and purpose, then what good is our health?
Even when we desire weight loss, as long as we stay fixated on the perfection of the body as the final destination, the destructive cycle of dieting and overeating will continue.
Instead, we need to connect to the deeper reason why we want to stand in our power, why we want to feel confident and sexy in this body. Staying connected to the little goals in life, and ignoring our larger purpose, blocks our connection to our highest, most vibrant expression of self. For those of us who have struggled with weight, dieting, overeating, and health issues, these issues act as powerful doorways that beckon us into a deeper journey of self-evolution and spiritual growth.
Sometimes we stay stuck in a fight with our weight or health or food because we are afraid to own what it is we TRULY desire for our lives. Our weight and wellness goals become a distraction that keeps us from setting our sights on the thing that really matters most to us and taking the courageous leap to bring it into reality.
Many women have not moved past their struggle with food and weight because if they did, what next? Where would they channel all of this energy that the game of weight loss has been consuming for years? Who would they be without this struggle? They would have to finally go for what is so near and dear to their heart. Weight would no longer be holding them back.
If you are a woman change-maker, light-worker, healer or helping professional waiting to heal the painful and hidden struggles with overeating, excess weight, and burnout BEFORE authentically and fully expressing yourself in your life and work, then you've got it all backwards.
It's time to claim the powerful purpose in your personal healing journey and transform it into a magnetic platform for service and impact.